Okay, the other day I posted a picture of the empty road as we made our way up to the coast. It was a Bank Holiday here in France – the first of many in May and the kids were off. We took two with us and left one at home. We had a nice wander at a Vide Grenier/ Brocante in Beauchamp before heading on up the coast to Saint-Pair-Sur-Mer.
Another facebook friend of mine had taken a picture of her location (much further south in France) and remarked at the lack of traffic. Being highly original and thinking “oh yeah!” no traffic on a Bank Holiday I did the same. Another facebook friend jokingly remarked “how on earth will you manage?!”. I replied that I did still miss Chinese/Indian take-aways and this got me thinking about my smug post on very little traffic.
What do I actually miss about the UK as opposed to what I love about France. So, without further ado here’s my list and its not comprehensive and could be subject to change at any moment depending on my mood.
1. Take Away Deliveries
Not that I need to be eating any (see previous post on getting fat in France) but it has to be number one. Right on up there. Take-aways. I’m talking about deliveries. Now I live in ruralish Normandy. I’m sure the bigger town, which is 20 minutes away, will deliver a pizza. The French fast food of choice. But when was the last time anyone got pizza delivered in the UK? That’s so 80s. Is Pizza Hut still in business even? I remember everyone queuing up in Crawley town centre when I was 15 to experience a deep pan. #matron.
The thing with a take-away delivery is that it just tops off a great day. You get back from a day out or you just have a rank meal planned on that day, you turn to your other half and say “fancy a take-away?” No one says no to this do they? Those words would feel me with a brief level of excitement. For these reasons 1) I didn’t have to cook 2) no washing up pots and pans 3) someone was going to knock on my door in about an hour and hand me my dinner. What’s not to like? So yes, when I go back to the UK my favourite request is to have a take-away delivered as I can have a 3 course meal out here any day of the week.
2. The Weekend/Sunday papers
But not just the Sunday papers, the daily newspapers. I would read one everyday and swap it over for Mr Normandy’s paper in the evening. I’ve always read the newspapers and the weekends were great for the supplements etc. I don’t read the news articles or features on line as it’s not the same. I also find you miss seeing some great images and though provoking articles to discuss. Whilst I do watch British and French news, you can’t beat the national papers. La Manche Libre doesn’t cut it for me. It’s not a major thing but when I’m back I hoover up the dailies.
3. Real Anglo Friendships
Okay this one is tricky as I do have a couple (literally!) of friendships. But I would say I have acquaintances here in Normandy. Although to be honest I’m quite content in my own routine and company. It suits me just fine. I’ve always got stuff to do. I pretty much do what I did in the UK. Our lives haven’t changed dramatically in that regard i.e up at 7am kids, school run, clean, work, chores, a walk, school run, tea, homework, wash up sit down about 9pm. Repeat.
People are guarded here and rightly so in many cases. There is a cover up. A mask of what lies beneath. You can feel it.
Because of this genuine friendships are never really going to be forthcoming.
There are many takers here or as another person reassuringly said “watch out for the scum!”. Friendships are made on the back of them wanting something from you. It is invariably ‘friendship’ on their terms. I use this word loosely. There is a falseness about it. My gawd people can be so false here. No ones being candid anytime soon. Although when you meet new people at a gathering they generally start with how great they are, life, money etc and by the end of the sentence have totally contradicted themselves while you mmm and nod away.
‘Friends’ who are keen on you one minute and then you don’t hear from them the next. It’s not personal and it speaks more about them that it does you. Some are chasing their tail, are busy doing what I’m doing above, stressed, depressed and are probably just as weary of exactly the same thing I have mentioned above.
I have a friend (yay!) who has seen many people come and go so investing in those friendships can be fruitless. Also you need to be aware of people that have fallen out with people and speaking of others badly – invariably you will be on the fall out list and your ears will be burning in some corner of the Manche very soon!
You don’t get that in the UK as much. Clearly there are gossips and he said she said tales but you still know the people you can trust. You can relax into friendships and let them develop. Here its not happening. Acceptance of that is key.
So yes. I miss true, genuine friendships with English speakers. Time to get myself a French friend.
4. Creativity in schools
Don’t get me wrong the kids go to a lovely school but I miss the UK creativity in schools. For all the cut backs, the shortages and challenges of the fractured society and the fall out from that – we have amazing teachers. Teachers and assistants that are highly creative and come up with novel ways of making learning fun. Art in a UK primary is making a Tudor house out of lolly sticks and a shoe box and then setting fire to it to recreate The Great Fire Of London. I miss this for my youngest. Art here is colouring in and not going over the lines. There is no glitter, glue and a mess being created. I understand that clubs and what not are for this on a Wednesday and not the school’s responsibility as such but I think its a shame. Mental note to self do creative stuff at home.
5. The Language
Yes this is a fairly obvious one but being able to say what you want, when you want is something you don’t even think about. To be able to phone the insurance company, to re-arrange something, to talk to the doctor and articulate exactly what you want to say. You do get used to expressing yourself with less words and preparing conversations beforehand if its a meeting etc. Overall it doesn’t have a massive impact on your life but you do miss out on the general chit chat to strangers. I’d talk to anyone me and that would be my next goal – to come out with random nonsense as I excel at that in English!
What do you miss, if anything about the UK?
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That penguin and whale child’s project is adorable!
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Thank you – I found it on line and thought it was very typical of a UK school project!
I miss buses as I like to use my bus pass to the max when I’m back in the uk ,miss my family and friends and Indian take away from tescos 🤔 And sausages lol x
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Oh yes the buses I forgot to put that – public transport and cocktail sausages! x
I do too. Here you have to fill the car with petrol to go places…
I miss everything you have mentioned!!
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Glad I got it covered!
Papers : From way back, when in France, I always bought Le Figaro and find it fulfilling in the way the quality newspapers are in UK. Now a resident, I find nothing better than sitting outside a café drinking a coffee and reading said paper.. Any UK news I get on line. As for friends and language, our first act 16 years ago was to hold a springtime housewarming party in the garden with friends over from England and half the occupants of our little village. After that we were invited back to several families for aperos or even dinner.I must admit that speaking the lngauge pretty well was an asset. Ta ke aways and deliveries are limited to kebabs and awful pizzas so I have no comments to offer as I choose neither. As I teach in a FE college I cannot offer comments on school creativity but the fact that our local village school handles, in one classroom 7 – 10 year olds, diversity is difficult enough! I am somewhat older than you Natasha and enjoy our French life as much as you do but with grown up children I am free of the day to day routine you experience and don’t really find serious concerns in how we live here; after 16 years I hardly remembethe way and style we did live in SE England. Kind regards. David
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Hi David, thanks for this as I did ask for Le Figaro in my local Tabac and they didn’t have it. I will get it from one of the bigger supermarkets and give it a go. I might even attempt a sit down at a cafe I think I’ve managed that a handful of times! We do go into the neighbours for apero and vice versa and we are getting better it#s not as painful like it was that first drinks there are less and less tumbleweed moments. We are also planning on having a garden party in the summer as the house is nearly finished for our street so am hoping that will help with making non ex-pat connections. Thanks for all the tips!
Hello, Enjoyed this entry very much, and I’m in total agreement with no.1 🍛 Really interesting about the friend thing. When we meet new people I’m immediately sizing them up as my potential ‘genuine friend’- someone who’ll come and drink wine and dance to 80s tracks when my hubby is away working 😉 I’ve not met that person yet, but also am not totally devastated by this – I’m a big girl and can drink and dance on my own… 😂 But I know what you mean and it was good to read that it’s not just me. We’re in the south west and have met a lot of incredibly nice people, but the English community is small so everyone knows everyone and everything about everyone so the opportunity for gossip is there.
I miss the chat thing too, most noticeably in the queue at the supermarket (as the french granny digs out her vouchers and pays by cheque) and the lady next to you strikes up conversation and is quickly silenced by my meek ‘Je ne comprends pas bien, desole….’ I miss that random chit chat.
Anyway, keep up the good work!
Bonne journee! Aileen
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Thank you so much! Ahh that’s a shame re the 80s musis sounds like a lot of fun. So many people have said to me I’m glad its not me – no it certainly isn’t unfortunately it is one of the down sides of living here and I have heard that from people who live in other countries as well that is not where they grew up etc. I’m sure you will be able to chat a little over time. Thanks again for commenting glad you enjoyed it.
Hi, for me it was the opposite – I found it was very difficult to make real friends in England. I really struggled with the british politeness – which is often just plain hypocrisy in my books – and people often want to have cups of teas and talk about nothing – the weather ! Altho only Brits are allowed to complain about it. A non Brit complaining about the british weather is often swiftly told that perhaps they should go back to their country if they don’t like it here… also I was dreading people constantly asking you where you are from, when they hear you have an accent. That often left me feel very lonely and isolated.. I lived in the UK for 14 years as a foreigners and it wasnt easy. Didn’t make friends even tho I was in the south east of England which is quite heavily populated…. people only call when they want something from you… that’s probably a universal human beings thing 😦
Hi I’m so sorry to hear this whereabouts in the South East were you living in the UK? Where I lived in South London, it was normal to have friends from different countries as there is a great mix but if you were in an area like Horsham where people have moved out to be away from London etc – I don’t know. It does help if you have children to make friends – I don’t know if you do or not. I agree re the weather and I’m sorry you were made to feel like this. And there are plenty of Brits here that only want you when they need something in fact had I known what the Brits out here were like I might not have moved to France! Thanks for commenting and reading x